Righting Ryan (or trying to)

Letter From the Editor --
Anonymous said...
{ I have been blog surfing lately for baby names and found your site b/c we have son's with the same names, Camden & Caiden. You have a beautiful family, I am sure you feel blessed, and it sounds like you are an amazing Mommy!! I was very saddened however at the snide comments about "Ryan" who I am guessing is your hubby. Would you want to be spoken/written about the way you've written about him? No human deserves that, even if they deserve it, b/c we all are imperfect. I encourage you to read a great book by Dr. Emmerson Eggrichs (sp?) called "Love & Respect". I am guessing you loved your husband enough to marry him, and it looks like he is a good provider, loves his family, and loves you enough to stay. SO many women don't have that stability. Count your blessings... your relationship to each other is crucial to your children's well being now and future. God Bless You!

3/2/08 7:01 AM }

Dear Anonymous,
Thank you so much for your care and concern for our relationship as a husband and wife. It's nice to know that there are others out there that feel just as strongly about families as we do.
But I must let you know that my wife has yet to post on our blog. Yes, it's true, this is all the work of her husband. So even though I'm contsantly being 'snide' when I write, it is about myself. Some people out there might wonder why I have such a low self-esteem, and feel a need to put myself down all the time (probably to make myself feel better about me....If that analogy can be applied to a case like this), but I don't even let it bother me! Better people have said worse about me than I could ever say about myself, so I just tend to ignore me.
To my dear wife, I must apologize. There have been few times in our (almost) 9 year marriage that I have made her cry, but this happened to be one of them. Just the thought of someone out there "thinking that (she's) some witchy wife who hates her husband" was too much for a pregnant woman to bear.
Shelley, I will defend your honor!
I now proclaim to the world that my wife married down! (sorry mom) And despite my best efforts to convince her of her error, she continues to love and honor me at levels that would make a storybook romance burn its pages in shame.
Shelley I love you and can only hope to show the kind of love to you that you give to our whole family on a constant basis.
Let's take a moment to analyze the areas of concern to help other bloggers avoid the same mistakes....
1 - "You have a beautiful family, I am sure you feel blessed, and it sounds like you are an amazing Mommy!!" -- Well thank you! but I'm the Daddy. (don't worry about it... because I lack a similar vocal structure to Barry White, I've been called ma'am on the phone plenty of times)
2 - You're dead on! I wouldn't want to be spoken/written about the way that I've written about me. No human deserves that, and even if I do, I am after all, imperfect.
3 - "I encourage you to read a great book by Dr. Emmerson Eggrichs (sp?) called "Love & Respect"." -- Can I get a hold of a copy that he's written in third person???
4 - "God Bless You!" -- Yes he does!
To my friend Anonymous, Thank you. You've helped me to see the error of my ways (like that's hard, right?) and I'm torn between the realization that I may never be able to post again...., or offending so many more of our loyal readers through my beligerant and derogitory attacks on that helpless victim.... me. (*sniff*)
In the future I will do my due dillegence as a blogger and research out the true character of a person behind the facade that is the outer layer of my onion.
In closing my dear anonymous, do not misunderstand my comments, I do not intend to make fun or humiliate anyone (except myself) with my response, it's just that I don't want to sleep on the couch. Something that I must say I am proud to have achieved a score of zero times thus far in life. And if you have any suggestions for baby names, we welcome both male and female suggestions.
Your BFF - Ryan.